Who are you?
The only way you can even truly attempt to become who you want to be, is to first acknowledge the reality of who you are. And the only way you can find yourself, is by first losing yourself. You must realise that the thinker may not be who you thought they were.
I understood myself only after I destroyed myself. And only in the process of fixing myself did I find out who I really was.
One may have to rebel in order to become conscious in order to see the previously unseen restrictions upon his life
- Don’t try to control other people’s behavior.
It is a tremendous burden to attach yourself to outcomes and behaviors you simply don’t control. The only control you have is your own behavior; and that’s tough enough to control. What chance do you thin you have of controlling other’s? Free yourself from such fruitless stressors. Instead of trying to control the behaviors of others, set a standard in your own life. Refuse to be disrespected, lied to, or mistreated. Set standards of personal behavior and standards of what you accept from others. Setting standards for yourself is a healthy and effective way to avoid the fruitless burden of trying to control others.
- We live in a multidimensional world. Don’t live a one-dimensional love.
If you love someone… feel it, speak it, show it, be it. Do more than tell them… show them. Let them feel your dedicated respect and your unwavering devotion. Ensure that your commitment and passion are known and unquestionable. Show them what they mean to you… what they are to you. And… if you don’t feel inspired to show your love in this multidimensional manner… be kind enough to let them go… so they can find someone who will.
- Stay alert! Don’t let someone’s words blind you from their behavior.
They can say all the right things, they can make you feel things you’ve never felt before but don’t be fooled; their actions will reveal their true character, desires, and priorities. Behavior speaks; pay attention to what it tells you. Behavior is math; pay attention to what it reveals.
When you love someone, you love the person as they are, and not as you’d like them to be.
When you trust someone, you are trusting them with your happiness and your despair. You are giving them power over you. Therefore you should never put all your trust in one person, trust needs to be shared for your own survival.
If you have no friends it is very difficult to make a first one as that one will be overloaded with your wants, whereas if they are not lonely, they are able to distribute their wants over many people. This can strain the relationship causing it to fall apart and you are back to square one.
When love itself is hated, what kind of world do we live in?
People who have friends have learnt how to see themselves, in mirrors, as they appear to their friends.
Only now do I realise how much, in the midst of my greatest terrors and nauseas, I had counted on someone to save me.
Alone and free. But this freedom is rather like death.
Don’t forgive: an act that is morally fucked should not be forgiven. You cannot choose to forget something as it is an unconscious decision. Therefore you must choose to ignore it, for the person you care for.
When people say they want to die, they actually want to live; but not merely survive.
5 stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance
If you don’t fit in: forced to change who you are, escapism (drugs, drink, suicide, games etc)
Self-doubt allows you to re-define who you are based on new information, but you should not have self-doubt because of social activity, only because of your own logical thinking (however this thinking can be based off the logical thinking of others).